Introduction
If there is one thing absolutely everyone agrees on, it’s that the subject of infertility can be very hard to want to talk about. There are so many stigmas around this topic and many misconceptions. One such stigma that is rarely talked about is how men feel when they just can’t seem to get past this hurdle in life. They don’t want to undergo testing or even look into treatment options because of the shame and embarrassment they have from feeling like a failure.
Men face a problem of feeling that they are failing their partner
Mens health face the problem of feeling that they are failing their partner. If you’re a man who can’t conceive, this can really be tough to deal with. You’re not able to do what’s expected of you, and it can feel like you’re letting down your partner and family. You might feel like you are not able to provide for them because of your infertility issues—that’s why it’s important for men to talk about this problem with their significant other or wife, so that they know where the pressure is coming from and don’t blame themselves for something that isn’t their fault or all on them alone!
They feel a pressure from society and family to perform
It is a common belief that men feel pressure to provide, and in many ways this is true. In our culture, we often have the belief that men are supposed to be the breadwinners and caretakers of the family while women stay at home with their children. While this may be more true for some families than others, it still tends to be one of those unspoken rules society has placed on us.
Men can also feel pressure from society and their loved ones when they are affected by infertility issues because they think they should be able to “perform” sexually during intercourse with their partner. This gives them anxiety about performing well enough for their partners or being able to keep up with her needs if she wants something different than what he can give her at any given time (i.e., anal sex). Men tend think that if they don’t perform well enough then maybe there’s something wrong with them mentally or physically which will cause them not only embarrassment but also stress about how other people may perceive him as less than his peers who do not experience these types of issues at all!
They also feel disgraced
- Men also feel disgraced when they are unable to conceive.
- They feel like they have failed as a man, and their masculinity is questioned.
- Many men feel like they are not able to provide for their family, or do what it takes to succeed in their career if they cannot provide an heir.
- The pressure to perform your duty as a man can be too much for some men who do not want children at all, but this doesn’t mean that every man feels this way.
May blame their partner
Men, however, are often expected to be the breadwinner and the provider. They may feel like they have to take on all of these roles in order to provide for their families. These stigmas can make it difficult for men to open up about their infertility issues and seek help. Men should not feel ashamed when it comes to fertility problems as there is nothing wrong with needing help! Research shows that 76% of couples who experience infertility go through a stressful time in their relationship due to the emotional toll that infertility takes on both partners. This stress can lead them down a dark path where they may get into arguments over money or other things related to their finances which only adds more stress onto an already tense situation causing them both even more pain from financial woes! In cases like these it’s important for couples or individuals who experience difficulties with conceiving children together (or without) seek counseling services from either professionals or trained mental health counselors at community centers near you today!
They put the blame on themselves
As men, we tend to take a lot of the blame for infertility. We may feel like we are failing our partners or that they are receiving negative feedback from others because of us. We may also feel like we are letting them down as a man and not being able to provide for them in this way. This can lead to low self-esteem, feeling less attractive and even feelings of inadequacy in general.
Get embarrassed to share the issue with friends or family
You may not feel comfortable sharing the issue with your friends or family. This is because men are expected to be providers and protectors. They are meant to be strong, stoic and in control of their emotions. Men are also expected to be the breadwinners in their families, so any situation that puts them at a disadvantage in this regard can lead them feeling embarrassed.
The subject of male infertility needs to be made more transparent.
- Talking to your doctor if you think you might be infertile.
- Talking to your partner if you think she might be infertile.
- Talking to your friends if they’re in a similar situation, or if they’ve had children before and know what it’s like.
- Talking to your family members who are close by—although this can be difficult, especially if there are awkward moments when adults weren’t able to talk about sex growing up or there were specific taboos around male fertility in the home environment (such as religious beliefs). For example, my dad was very uncomfortable talking about sex with me so I never knew how much he struggled with his infertility until he finally told me years later when we were closer adults who could have more open conversations about these things!
Conclusion
Illnesses and disorders can affect anyone, regardless of gender. It is high time that men have the same support as women when it comes to fertility issues. This can only happen when society no longer looks at these matters with indifference and this topic becomes more transparent for everyone.
